Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Snow, Hibernation, Epiphany, and Saying Thank You

Hi Everyone! 

Well, the snow hasn’t stopped for days and the skies are so dreary.  You think I would be used to this after living in this area for most of my life.  Last summer I was toned and had a gardener’s tan.  Today, I’m floppy, wiggly, and pale as Elmer’s glue! 

Why don’t I move from this area?  I ask myself that question every winter.  I suppose what is keeping me here are family and friends. (No boyfriend at the moment.)  If I didn’t care whether I saw them but once or twice a year…. I would be outta here so fast.  Unfortunately (or fortunately), whichever way you want to look at it, I have responsibilities here.

Epiphany :  What was my awakening?  Hmmm….. that I am okay just the way I am.  I realized that I’ve been holding back expressing my feelings about a few specific issues  in a couple of my relationships, and I think it may be time to speak up.  In a couple of my relationships, I feel I’m being taken advantage again.  A few years ago, I had a rude awakening.  I grew in so many different aspects from that difficult time.  Mostly I found MY voice.  I found My personality again.  I found my spirituality again.  I found some of my passions again.   Now that I’ve been more of myself than I have ever been in my life, I find myself being taken advantage again, because I like to help and I like to give.  Whatever happened to saying “thank you so much for all you’ve done,” or what happened to sending out a thank you card with a little hand written note.  Whatever happened to manners and etiquette?  Have you experienced this in your world? 

I’m not talking about a small act of kindness.  I’m talking about favors that are asked of me, and going out of my way to accommodate.  Okay.  You might be thinking, why didn’t I just say no to begin with.  Easy.  They are my friends/family and I love them.  You may also remind me that in doing a  good deed, I should never expect anything in return.  That’s what makes it a selfless act of kindness.  BUT GEESH!  Let’s be honest…. we all would enjoy a little bit of recognition (and/or gushing.)

Well, there you have it.  My winter boredom has taken such a hold on me that I’m bitchin’ about manners and etiquette. 

I may post again a little later – boredom – remember?  

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Nancy said...

Oh yeah, I know exactly what you are talking about. When it happens again and again, it makes me skeptical about helping the next person or organization that needs help. It hardens my heart.

A sincere "Thank You" is all I ask in return, but too many don't bother to do that anymore. Sigh! I can't change them, but they are slowly wearing me down.

Melisa (and Frankie) said...

You expressed it perfectly. It hardens ones heart and that's a shame.

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